Hey boo hey!
💕 Let’s get real—if you’re anything like me, chances are you say “yes” far too often, even when every part of you is screaming “no.” So why do we do it?
Research says it’s because we’re lacking something. And let me tell you, I lacked so much growing up that it turned me into a people-pleaser.
I thought I just loved being of service to others, but I couldn’t see the difference between being of service and being used.
From People-Pleaser to Saying No
I used to drop everything when someone needed something, only to realize I’d only hear from those people when they needed help.
It was an awful feeling—being taken for granted. So, I started practicing the word “no,” even when it wasn’t easy.
And let’s not even talk about saying no to my kids! As a single mother, guilt ran deep.
I worked countless hours and would compensate for lost time by giving them anything and everything they wanted.
It felt impossible to say no.
But now? The word flows effortlessly off my tongue—shockingly so! 😂
Why Saying No is a Form of Self-Care
As nurses, we’re nurturers by nature.
We put everyone else’s needs ahead of our own—patients, families, coworkers. As parents, we do the same.
And if you’re in a leadership role, the pressure to say “yes” to every request can be overwhelming.
I used to skip the gym, cancel me-time, and miss appointments because I prioritized everyone else’s needs.
Then one day, I woke up and said:
No more.
The hell with everyone else—it was time to take control and put myself first. Was it easy?
No. Am I still learning? Absolutely. But I’ve learned that saying “no” is an act of self-respect, not selfishness.
Why Leaders Need to Say No
As leaders, we have to set boundaries.
Saying no is part of the role. It ensures we can focus on what truly matters—making big decisions, supporting our teams, and showing up as our best selves.
Your Challenge Today
Today, I want you to practice saying “no.”
Start small if you need to, remind yourself that saying no isn’t bad—it’s necessary.
Need help getting started? Here’s a simple script you can use:
“Thanks for thinking of me, but I can’t take that on right now.”
You don’t owe anyone an explanation, boo. Set your boundaries and protect your peace.
Final Thoughts
Be selfish today. You deserve it. Your well-being deserves it. And let’s be real: a well-rested, empowered version of you is so much better for everyone around you.
Your "no" today could be the "yes" your well-being needs. ❤️
Tell me, boo—will you say no today? 💕
Lead with love ❤️
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